What it means to be white in America

Maybe like me, you watched the tensions rise and violence unfold in Ferguson, Missouri last night. It caused me to grieve and pray that the spirit of God would bring healing and unity to a community so torn by racial brokenness.

It caused me to think back to a conversation I had with a good friend who’s black. He’d had an experience where, as a black pastor in Northeast Washington, he’d been mistaken for a suspect of a break-in, had been slammed to the sidewalk with the words ‘on the ground nigger!’ (the policemen were black as well), handcuffed, arrested and taken to the precinct for questioning. It was only after hours in the holding cell that his true identity was established. When he asked for a ride back to his church, the officers responded, ‘find your own way home’.

As his friend, listening to the story, I was incredulous. How could that happen on the streets of America? How could two black cops treat another black that way?

His answer was elegant and haunting: “Being white in America means you never have to think about it.”

I routinely go to places in East Africa where I’m the first white man they’ve ever seen. Mostly I am at best a curiosity…children come near, rub my skin, and expect the ‘white’ to rub off. It really hilarious to watch their faces.

My presence there is seen as an attempt to bring some of the wealth of America to their village, so I am received with grace and honor.

It’s not like that when a black man or woman gets close to so many whites in America. Sadly, there is a pervasive, deep-seated distrust, even fear. Sadly, Michael Brown embodied that fear. A large overpowering black man threatening a white authority figure. Could it be more polarizing?

So, as my friend would say, being black in America means you ALWAYS have to think about it.

I watched Ferguson last night and wondered…what happened here? What caused these persons to be so angry, so distrusting. For the record, it has to be more than what someone on the police force did or didn’t do. This is larger…evidenced by protests and rioting in other cities.

We have a serious problem in America. Electing the first black president has done little, perhaps nothing, perhaps exacerbated the issue. I’m not surprised. The answer is not in politics. It must lie elsewhere.

I’ll never forget speaking in a tiny church in a little town in Kenya years ago when on a moments notice I was asked to stand and deliver that Sunday morning. There are 42 tribes in Kenya. The Kikuyu make up half the population…so they are largely in charge and hated by most of the other tribes.

As I stood to speak, the scripture on my mind and heart was Colossians 3:11 “Here there is no Gentile or Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, slave or free, but Christ is all and in all.” Imagine their surprise when I inserted the words, “Here there is no Kikuyu or Maasai…slave or free…”

In other words…in the Kingdom of God, labels don’t matter. We don’t see each other that way. It’s not about black or white, Democrat or Republican, rich or poor, educated or not.

God’s vision for us here in America and around the world is that the label we wear is this: People of the Kingdom…Followers of Jesus.

As people of faith may today be the day when we look up from our lives and begin to become a part of the answer…praying for reconciliation, for healing, for a miraculous compassion in all our hearts. May we stretch ourselves and begin to see those of other races and ethnicities as precious in the sight of God. May our hearts break free of the baseless, often historic prejudices.

May today be the day.

Three principles for helping others grow

Yesterday in a teaching series called Rooted, we talked about how we can go about helping other people grow in their faith. It’s surprisingly controversial…this idea that we can or should be involved in the spiritual development of those around us. I could sense some ‘push-back’ in the room…sorta like…really…am I my brother’s KEEPER???

I suggested three principles for helping other people grow. the first was this:

To help someone else we must see it as our responsibility, even our privilege to help.
In Matthew 28:18-19 Jesus made it very clear that it IS our job. “Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit…”

Its pretty much a slam dunk…we ARE to be involved in the spiritual life of those around us.

The second principle may be a bit more complicated:

To help someone else grow, we must discern where they are.

Matthew 13 speaks of four kinds of soil/spiritual conditions:

Seed sown along the path
– pre-Christian

– no understanding

– not internalizing

Seed on rocky places 
– shallow

– new Christians

– life got hard because of their faith

Seed among the thorns 
– wealth and worry

– God has gotten too small

Seed on good soil

– a need to find their own ministry

The third principle is completely elementary:

To help someone else grow in their faith, we must be present with them.

1 Thessalonians 1:2-10
“You know how we lived among you for your sake.”

Helping someone else grow means we get close enough to them in relationship and continue to walk together…to invest and encourage.

So…are you interested in helping someone else grow? You’re in for the ride of a lifetime!

Its never too late to learn

Life is all about learning new things. The moment we stop learning we start dying. Well, mentally anyway. And to be honest…stop learning and you begin to be just…BORING!

It doesn’t take a university or seminary to learn something new. We can read endless content online…some of which is useless, I freely admit. But some of it is useful and catalytic – take this blog for example 🙂 .

There’s also things like Khan Academy, eLearners, or Academicearth. Its probably never been easier to learn new skills than today. We truly never have to stop learning.

There’s also the idea of learning from each other, recognizing that other people know things we don’t. Call it coaching, mentoring, whatever…we can always be in learning mode.

Recently, it seems God has saw fit to connect me with someone like this.

It was at the suggestion of a friend that I meet this person. I Googled him and discovered LOTS written about him. So…why not meet him?

The first meeting was direct, intense, and catalytic. The kind of conversation that leaves you processing the big ideas for months. And there were a LOT of big ideas.

Imagine then, when the phone rang and with it another invitation to sit and simply talk. I emptied my calendar and set aside a day for the visit.

Sitting with my new friend once more, I was powerfully aware of his educated, unique, studied, experienced perspective on the world, and most importantly, on Jesus.

When’s the last time you spent two hours in intense conversation about Jesus? The time passes quickly. And when it’s done, once again you find much to consider…much to find a place for in your heart and life.

As I left his study yesterday I turned and said to him, “You asked why I’m here. I know you’ve heard this countless times…but I’m here because of Jesus in you”.

We will likely sit together again. In the mean time…I can feel things changing in me.

More than learning. More like awakening.

 

 

Interstellar

So…have you got a spare 2 hours and 49 minutes this week? Maybe you want to go to the theater and catch Matthew McConaughey’s newest work!

I never did quite get the whole story, but it seems good ol’ mother earth is about to croak. And Matthew and his team are sent through a worm hole to find new digs for the human race. As you can imagine, worm holes are scary places and whats on the other side can be equally alarming.

I will, of course, NOT spoil the plot for those who intend to go see it.

For the record, I did not regret the almost three hour investment.

It was funny though. As we left the theatre, I asked my son what he thought. His response: I think I’m going to have to process this a bit. Interpretation: I have no idea what I just saw!

Granted…the visual effects were incredible. The actors and actresses (McConaughey, Hathaway, Chastain, Caine, Lithgow, Damon, and others) were phenomenal. I can’t imagine the film missing many awards.

There is one thing missing in film: God. Not that I expected Him to show up in the final credits or dialogue.

Bit it IS the perfect film to see if you want to imagine mankind in it’s worst moment and no one to lean on but themselves.

Ironically, with all the great acting, stellar effects (no pun intended), and ‘imaginative’ storyline, mankind seems so very small, so very pathetic when it’s left to its own efforts and devices.

Perhaps that’s the real moral of the story…that in our most desperate moments, despite bravery and creativity…life without

God WILL feel very small.

Why I don’t blog more often…

I’ve discovered something about my writing style: I only write when things are going well.

Example: My last post was from Malawi…when I was wrapping up a fantastic trip to serve the poor and encourage the church.

Then I got home.

Without going into detail…for me, life has been bizarre and personally challenging lately. And when that’s going on, I find I go inward. I start filtering. And I stop writing.

For every writer there is always the ongoing question: how much of what I’m thinking is helpful for whoever chooses to read this?

What it becomes it this: I’m the only one who’s struggling…

On the surface…I know better than that. I know that life is filled with challenges, struggles, even things that are frustrating, embarrassing.

The interesting thing is, the more I have shared with those close to me about life at the moment, the more I am reminded that life is universally challenging. My closest friends ALL have significant challenges, not so much MY challenges, but significant nonetheless.  One friend put it this way…”I’m such a cripple…but I’ll gladly give you one of my crutches!”

I think that sums it up…in one way or another we all walk with a limp. All of us have challenges…even ones that drive us to our knees.

So..maybe my writing will be more the result of being on my knees…and less about only my happy times.

Time will tell.

 

 

 

Chileka Airport

They say chance favors the prepared. So when it comes to third world travel, arrive early at the airport. After much experience with Air Malawi, I don’t take anything for granted. Ethiopian Air seems to be more dependable. Even so, I have a 3 pm flight…and I’m at the airport at 9 am. I can check in at 12:30. 3 more hours to wait.

The ‘terminal’ is under construction, so the passenger lounge is out of service. Never fear, said the lady behind the counter. I’ll hold your bag. Go outside and to the right.

Sure enough…outside and to the right I find a large tent. And inside I find all the contents of the old lounge. Tables with table cloths and cloth napkins. High top tables. A bar. Very inviting.

I order a Coke…which tastes so much better than Coke in America. And I settle in. 30 hours from now, God willing, I’ll be home.

I’ll miss this place, it’s peace and simplicity. But I have come to understand: one of the reasons I was born an American was to find ways to channel some of America’s resources here, to one of the 10 poorest countries in the world.

Works for me.

Last day

So…this is it…my last day here. Tomorrow I begin the journey home. 22 hrs flight time with a stopover in Rome.

This morning as I’ve waited for Grey, I’ve knocked around town, had my shoes shined (turns out the shoe shine man was a follower of Jesus too. He was quoting scripture to me), checked prices on bicycles, ground maize, and corrugated roofing and finally settled into an Ethiopian restaurant for a pot of spiced coffee.

The owner, Mr. Abibi, is a Christian with strong views regarding the moral decline of America and how we’re exporting this decline to other countries. Our conversation was warm, enlightening, and challenging.

On my way out of the shop I met Tobias, from Germany. Fortunately his English was far better than my German. He was in search of the perfect omelette. I told him good luck!He’s here for the Blantyre Arts Festival, his first visit to Africa. We’ll share a flight out tomorrow.

No place is ever as idyllic as it seems (learned that the hard way in Kenya) but there is a peace here. These people are trying hard to get into the 21st century.

And mostly, they’re just trying to survive. Most of the city inhabitants are just a few short years from their life in a very primitive village, learning new skills and seeking an easier life than the one they were born to.

Grace Community Church Malawi is largely focused on the orphans here in the poorest sections of Blantyre, and churches in remote villages which serve the poorest of the poor.

It’s messy and confusing and they don’t always get it right. Add to that the cultural differences and it makes this partnership challenging. Accountability (as Mr. Abibi reminded me) is key. We must be careful to ask the hard questions and maintain trust.

There are closer places to do ministry, but none more rewarding. The value they place on owning their own Bible is uncommon in America. The graciousness with which they receive the azungu warms the soul.

In the village there is an innocence. I was told in one of the villages that they knew the white man can’t lie. Imagine their surprise when told them “Oh yes we can, but as followers of Jesus we seek to follow the truth!”

I marvel at how this whole journey began. I have no idea what’s next or if the church in America will seek to reengage. I only know that some how, some way, I’ve become attached to these people, this country. Amazing.

Pastor Frederick

100 kilometers of good road followed by 11 kilometers of very bad road and you’re in Magaleta, northwest of Blantyre.

The church there is led by a gentle, serious man named Pastor Frederick. His easy smile and age belie the tremendous struggle which defines everyday life in this region. I met him a few years ago before he walked with a cane.

He asked to speak to me. So, surrounded by the leaders of the village we talked.

He said, “You’ve been silent for three years. Where have you been? We need your help. We need bibles, we need training. We need bicycles to reach far from here.”

“Three years ago you gave us certificates as pastors of Grace Community Church. We still have them. We still need your help”.

I looked into his eyes and sensed the urgency of his words. I was immediately very sad. I apologized for taking so long to return.

I have a soft spot, a call, to encourage indigenous leaders. They shepherd their flocks with little education and no support. It’s a pure call from God. I’d let Pastor Frederick down.

We’d brought bibles, hymnals, and the Disciples Making Disciples books in two languages. All were quickly assigned to the leaders. The village chief got the first bible. The way he held it said it was a precious gift.

Nobody knows these people exist. It’s easy as Americans to become so self-consumed. But when I met someone like Pastor Frederick, I’ll do anything I can to partner with him to build the Kingdom of God is this little corner of Africa.

Matthew 25:45 NIV
[45] “He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’

Monday morning

It’s sunny and warm already. The city is bustling with normal back to work activity. A breakfast of one chicken wing, two gizzards, coffee, and potatoes. Breakfast of champions!

Yesterday was interesting. After church we went to Grey’s house…a first…in four visits here, this was the first time.

His home is comfortable, several kilometers outside of the city in what we’d call a subdivision. The streets are unpaved, but passable.

We ate together. I couldn’t help but be concerned about the freshness of the meat, having gotten food poisoning from bad liver in Kenya years ago. Then I noticed the chicken on the floor in the car…very much alive!

Our conversation stretched from the afternoon, over dinner and into the evening.

We spoke of why they saw a need to minister to the outlying villages: because no one else was going and these villagers needed to hear of Jesus.

We talked about Grace Center and how it might grow beyond it’s definite limits in Delandi.

They said they dreamed of the day when they’d buy MY ticket to come visit.

I keep asking why am I here. I think it’s simply to help one part of the church grow here in this largely forgotten country. And to serve the least of these in the villages.

We’re off to Magaleta, Grey’s home village. What will today hold? We’ll see.

The banana man

I was making my evening run to the ATM when I was approached by a little guy no more than 8 or 9 yrs old. In his hands were bunches of bananas. They looked like they just came off a tree in his yard. Trust me they were not Chicita brand!

I wasn’t interested, but clearly he was there to earn some money. I reached in my pocket, pulled out a few kwachas and told him, “no thanks, but here’s something for you anyway.”

Again this evening, as I left the ATM, there he was. I know he’s been trained to watch the ATM’s near the hotels. And I wonder just how late he’s there.

This time I just said “hey banana man, muli bwanji! I don’t need any bananas, but here ya go!” This time I tried to be more generous.

This is not about my gifts to him. It’s about the fact that I so long for a world where 8 year olds don’t have to be out after dark selling bananas. I pray for his safety as he does what he has to do to survive.