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Three principles for helping others grow

Yesterday in a teaching series called Rooted, we talked about how we can go about helping other people grow in their faith. It’s surprisingly controversial…this idea that we can or should be involved in the spiritual development of those around us. I could sense some ‘push-back’ in the room…sorta like…really…am I my brother’s KEEPER???

I suggested three principles for helping other people grow. the first was this:

To help someone else we must see it as our responsibility, even our privilege to help.
In Matthew 28:18-19 Jesus made it very clear that it IS our job. “Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit…”

Its pretty much a slam dunk…we ARE to be involved in the spiritual life of those around us.

The second principle may be a bit more complicated:

To help someone else grow, we must discern where they are.

Matthew 13 speaks of four kinds of soil/spiritual conditions:

Seed sown along the path
– pre-Christian

– no understanding

– not internalizing

Seed on rocky places 
– shallow

– new Christians

– life got hard because of their faith

Seed among the thorns 
– wealth and worry

– God has gotten too small

Seed on good soil

– a need to find their own ministry

The third principle is completely elementary:

To help someone else grow in their faith, we must be present with them.

1 Thessalonians 1:2-10
“You know how we lived among you for your sake.”

Helping someone else grow means we get close enough to them in relationship and continue to walk together…to invest and encourage.

So…are you interested in helping someone else grow? You’re in for the ride of a lifetime!

Its never too late to learn

Life is all about learning new things. The moment we stop learning we start dying. Well, mentally anyway. And to be honest…stop learning and you begin to be just…BORING!

It doesn’t take a university or seminary to learn something new. We can read endless content online…some of which is useless, I freely admit. But some of it is useful and catalytic – take this blog for example 🙂 .

There’s also things like Khan Academy, eLearners, or Academicearth. Its probably never been easier to learn new skills than today. We truly never have to stop learning.

There’s also the idea of learning from each other, recognizing that other people know things we don’t. Call it coaching, mentoring, whatever…we can always be in learning mode.

Recently, it seems God has saw fit to connect me with someone like this.

It was at the suggestion of a friend that I meet this person. I Googled him and discovered LOTS written about him. So…why not meet him?

The first meeting was direct, intense, and catalytic. The kind of conversation that leaves you processing the big ideas for months. And there were a LOT of big ideas.

Imagine then, when the phone rang and with it another invitation to sit and simply talk. I emptied my calendar and set aside a day for the visit.

Sitting with my new friend once more, I was powerfully aware of his educated, unique, studied, experienced perspective on the world, and most importantly, on Jesus.

When’s the last time you spent two hours in intense conversation about Jesus? The time passes quickly. And when it’s done, once again you find much to consider…much to find a place for in your heart and life.

As I left his study yesterday I turned and said to him, “You asked why I’m here. I know you’ve heard this countless times…but I’m here because of Jesus in you”.

We will likely sit together again. In the mean time…I can feel things changing in me.

More than learning. More like awakening.

 

 

Interstellar

So…have you got a spare 2 hours and 49 minutes this week? Maybe you want to go to the theater and catch Matthew McConaughey’s newest work!

I never did quite get the whole story, but it seems good ol’ mother earth is about to croak. And Matthew and his team are sent through a worm hole to find new digs for the human race. As you can imagine, worm holes are scary places and whats on the other side can be equally alarming.

I will, of course, NOT spoil the plot for those who intend to go see it.

For the record, I did not regret the almost three hour investment.

It was funny though. As we left the theatre, I asked my son what he thought. His response: I think I’m going to have to process this a bit. Interpretation: I have no idea what I just saw!

Granted…the visual effects were incredible. The actors and actresses (McConaughey, Hathaway, Chastain, Caine, Lithgow, Damon, and others) were phenomenal. I can’t imagine the film missing many awards.

There is one thing missing in film: God. Not that I expected Him to show up in the final credits or dialogue.

Bit it IS the perfect film to see if you want to imagine mankind in it’s worst moment and no one to lean on but themselves.

Ironically, with all the great acting, stellar effects (no pun intended), and ‘imaginative’ storyline, mankind seems so very small, so very pathetic when it’s left to its own efforts and devices.

Perhaps that’s the real moral of the story…that in our most desperate moments, despite bravery and creativity…life without

God WILL feel very small.

Chileka Airport

They say chance favors the prepared. So when it comes to third world travel, arrive early at the airport. After much experience with Air Malawi, I don’t take anything for granted. Ethiopian Air seems to be more dependable. Even so, I have a 3 pm flight…and I’m at the airport at 9 am. I can check in at 12:30. 3 more hours to wait.

The ‘terminal’ is under construction, so the passenger lounge is out of service. Never fear, said the lady behind the counter. I’ll hold your bag. Go outside and to the right.

Sure enough…outside and to the right I find a large tent. And inside I find all the contents of the old lounge. Tables with table cloths and cloth napkins. High top tables. A bar. Very inviting.

I order a Coke…which tastes so much better than Coke in America. And I settle in. 30 hours from now, God willing, I’ll be home.

I’ll miss this place, it’s peace and simplicity. But I have come to understand: one of the reasons I was born an American was to find ways to channel some of America’s resources here, to one of the 10 poorest countries in the world.

Works for me.

Last day

So…this is it…my last day here. Tomorrow I begin the journey home. 22 hrs flight time with a stopover in Rome.

This morning as I’ve waited for Grey, I’ve knocked around town, had my shoes shined (turns out the shoe shine man was a follower of Jesus too. He was quoting scripture to me), checked prices on bicycles, ground maize, and corrugated roofing and finally settled into an Ethiopian restaurant for a pot of spiced coffee.

The owner, Mr. Abibi, is a Christian with strong views regarding the moral decline of America and how we’re exporting this decline to other countries. Our conversation was warm, enlightening, and challenging.

On my way out of the shop I met Tobias, from Germany. Fortunately his English was far better than my German. He was in search of the perfect omelette. I told him good luck!He’s here for the Blantyre Arts Festival, his first visit to Africa. We’ll share a flight out tomorrow.

No place is ever as idyllic as it seems (learned that the hard way in Kenya) but there is a peace here. These people are trying hard to get into the 21st century.

And mostly, they’re just trying to survive. Most of the city inhabitants are just a few short years from their life in a very primitive village, learning new skills and seeking an easier life than the one they were born to.

Grace Community Church Malawi is largely focused on the orphans here in the poorest sections of Blantyre, and churches in remote villages which serve the poorest of the poor.

It’s messy and confusing and they don’t always get it right. Add to that the cultural differences and it makes this partnership challenging. Accountability (as Mr. Abibi reminded me) is key. We must be careful to ask the hard questions and maintain trust.

There are closer places to do ministry, but none more rewarding. The value they place on owning their own Bible is uncommon in America. The graciousness with which they receive the azungu warms the soul.

In the village there is an innocence. I was told in one of the villages that they knew the white man can’t lie. Imagine their surprise when told them “Oh yes we can, but as followers of Jesus we seek to follow the truth!”

I marvel at how this whole journey began. I have no idea what’s next or if the church in America will seek to reengage. I only know that some how, some way, I’ve become attached to these people, this country. Amazing.

Pastor Frederick

100 kilometers of good road followed by 11 kilometers of very bad road and you’re in Magaleta, northwest of Blantyre.

The church there is led by a gentle, serious man named Pastor Frederick. His easy smile and age belie the tremendous struggle which defines everyday life in this region. I met him a few years ago before he walked with a cane.

He asked to speak to me. So, surrounded by the leaders of the village we talked.

He said, “You’ve been silent for three years. Where have you been? We need your help. We need bibles, we need training. We need bicycles to reach far from here.”

“Three years ago you gave us certificates as pastors of Grace Community Church. We still have them. We still need your help”.

I looked into his eyes and sensed the urgency of his words. I was immediately very sad. I apologized for taking so long to return.

I have a soft spot, a call, to encourage indigenous leaders. They shepherd their flocks with little education and no support. It’s a pure call from God. I’d let Pastor Frederick down.

We’d brought bibles, hymnals, and the Disciples Making Disciples books in two languages. All were quickly assigned to the leaders. The village chief got the first bible. The way he held it said it was a precious gift.

Nobody knows these people exist. It’s easy as Americans to become so self-consumed. But when I met someone like Pastor Frederick, I’ll do anything I can to partner with him to build the Kingdom of God is this little corner of Africa.

Matthew 25:45 NIV
[45] “He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’

Monday morning

It’s sunny and warm already. The city is bustling with normal back to work activity. A breakfast of one chicken wing, two gizzards, coffee, and potatoes. Breakfast of champions!

Yesterday was interesting. After church we went to Grey’s house…a first…in four visits here, this was the first time.

His home is comfortable, several kilometers outside of the city in what we’d call a subdivision. The streets are unpaved, but passable.

We ate together. I couldn’t help but be concerned about the freshness of the meat, having gotten food poisoning from bad liver in Kenya years ago. Then I noticed the chicken on the floor in the car…very much alive!

Our conversation stretched from the afternoon, over dinner and into the evening.

We spoke of why they saw a need to minister to the outlying villages: because no one else was going and these villagers needed to hear of Jesus.

We talked about Grace Center and how it might grow beyond it’s definite limits in Delandi.

They said they dreamed of the day when they’d buy MY ticket to come visit.

I keep asking why am I here. I think it’s simply to help one part of the church grow here in this largely forgotten country. And to serve the least of these in the villages.

We’re off to Magaleta, Grey’s home village. What will today hold? We’ll see.

The banana man

I was making my evening run to the ATM when I was approached by a little guy no more than 8 or 9 yrs old. In his hands were bunches of bananas. They looked like they just came off a tree in his yard. Trust me they were not Chicita brand!

I wasn’t interested, but clearly he was there to earn some money. I reached in my pocket, pulled out a few kwachas and told him, “no thanks, but here’s something for you anyway.”

Again this evening, as I left the ATM, there he was. I know he’s been trained to watch the ATM’s near the hotels. And I wonder just how late he’s there.

This time I just said “hey banana man, muli bwanji! I don’t need any bananas, but here ya go!” This time I tried to be more generous.

This is not about my gifts to him. It’s about the fact that I so long for a world where 8 year olds don’t have to be out after dark selling bananas. I pray for his safety as he does what he has to do to survive.

Day 4

Yesterday was a 13 hour day. The last two hours were spent driving after dark. Daytime driving is scary enough. After dark? Just crazy. Some cars run with their lights off or very very dim. With pedestrians all along the road, you’re always threading a needle between oncoming traffic and those along the road.

But after a great night’s sleep its a new day. My friends were late in coming (African time!) we got to church a bit late, but so did everyone else!

So this morning we worshipped…2 hours or so. I spoke…1 Thessalonians 1, modeling our faith for others. “How much can your friends learn about Jesus from you?”

Now were headed to Gray’s house. Dinner at home. And more conversation about ministry here.

All in all, an easy day!

A long day

Ngokwe is located 4 hours of crazy driving northeast of Blantyre. You can throw a stone from there to the Mozambique border. Lake Malawi is just to the west. Two hours of good road, two hours of roads so bad you can barely call them roads. We got out to check a number of bridges for safety.

The church there meets under an open thatched roof. It’s led by Pastor Francis, a young convert who clearly loves his people.

We were surprised to be visited by the village leader, as well as the senior chief for the region. They’re both Muslim but heard there was a white American in the village and came to check it out.

They were both very kind. The senior chief actually asked if I could help the church there buy roofing for their building. He said, “we can make our own bricks, but they need help with the roof!” Imagine a Muslim asking for help for a Christian church!

Sixty pastors in that area have learned of our training and are asking to be trained. No shortage of opportunities here!

Perhaps it’s time to buy a place in Malawi?